July 13th, 2012 by Behaven Kids
Being a stay at home mom has been filled with a lot of adjustments. There are some that are anticipated, and some that I just never gave much consideration. When I was working fulltime in addition to overtime and on-call hours, the time I spent with my kids felt minimal and I felt like I spent all of my free time with the kids. I cleaned and did household duties after they went to bed (again thankful for their early bedtime). The time with the kids was filled with fun and not a lot of responsibility.
So this brings me to the chores topic. As of right now neither one of my kids has a chore list or specific things they are responsible for. My 5 year old feeds the dogs most days, but only upon request. I usually have to ask, he just doesn’t do it spontaneously. They don’t have to make their beds, simply because I never get mine made—seems unfair to ask, take out the garbage, nothing. My kids will once in awhile help me dust or put clothes away after folding them. They will put their toys away upon request, but if the request isn’t made there they sit. I can’t tell you how many times our feet have been victim to a puncture wound from a middle of the night, walking in the dark, stepping on a toy incident.
And, now my son has figured out the value of money. So he wants to get paid for everything. I don’t know about you, but I never got an allowance. Once in a while my grandpa would sneak me some money, but it was never contingent upon the stuff I helped him do. My parents never gave me an allowance that I remember. I never went without things, they always provided, but I just don’t ever remember earning an allowance. My husband didn’t either.
So I feel I have this predicament. Do I start a chore list for my kids? If so, what is reasonable for them to complete? Can I make them make their bed if I don’t make my own? What’s the thing to do with allowances these days? Now that I’m home and I have so much more time with the kids, I feel like their life shouldn’t just be all fun and games. They have to learn some of the tough stuff. I don’t want to raise spoiled kids (although my husband and my parents would probably argue that I was spoiled- but I do think I turned out okay).
What do you do in your home for your kids chore lists? What age did they start? Do you give an allowance?